Izzy will also get into any and everything looking for food, she will rip open bags and knock things over. To make sure his crystals are easier for him to pass if he gets them, and thus to make it more likely he’ll pee in the litter box and not where he happens to be sleeping/resting (i.e. We can’t give her back because my son would be really upset at yet another change. I can’t stand living with him anymore. I love cats, I’ve had a cat pretty much my whole life but they were all porch cats. Has alerted us to a bat in the house, mice, and a leaking air conditioner. And if you’re worried about something in particular, do some research to make the worry and fear over it less powerful. This reminds me of a picture of an angry looking kitten I found on google images with the caption "I HATE EVERYTHING", I'm sorry but I think you'll make a terrible parent. My question is why these soap-box-braying, self-important, self-righteous cat people aren’t willing to take in a perfectly good cat when the current family can’t support it any more. And now, you have to make a choice between your baby and your cat. This damn cat is neurotic and pathetic. He is always underfoot. i was & still am devestated. There is no way i can stop him by doing that. Try these tips to get him to be more cuddly, these to get him used to his carrier, and these to get him used to being in a car. But you can actually change this behaviour with training, and I’d encourage you to do so. He must sense that it often leads to a soft bite. Eventually when I move out of my parents house (im 20) I’ll have to look for a place that will allow pets and that will limit my options and raise prices. I was actually thinking of changing her crunchies, as she doesn’t seem to enjoy them. I’m the opposite. I do play time, cuddle time, clean box, fresh food, nothing shuts her up. Everyone in my house hates him. I’d then try to “smell” like your new partner (spraying your partner’s body mists and such for a weekend for instance) to see if he can start to associate you with the positive emotions he has created with your new partner. It just seems like she needs more stimulation (we are gone 9-5 at work). They have never gotten along and now 3 years later they still fight on a pretty regular basis. But she won’t eat…and the more time I spend trying to convince her to eat… I feel like a monster. Eventually, he’ll figure out another way to tell you he wants something, like by tapping you instead of biting. Here’s What to Do, Feline Digestive Issues? Other times, more frequent meals so the cat doesn’t feel hunger helps (if you can’t do it yourself, I recommend this feeder that I bought about a year ago, it’s so good, and temper-proof). At the beginning, Ghost Cat would retreat to the sidelines if my husband or I tried to play with the kitten. Good luck, & I really hope things start getting better for you soon xoxo. The 1/2 cup of water with kibble twice each day are the only meals I feed my cats anymore, because I now have a timed feeder. My sister started feeding it (at the time I did not live at this home but now I do) and it stayed. Understanding and empathy are out the window, I’ve begun to hate him. Oh and try to train them to be more snuggly with these tips as often as you can. Always petting him and playing with him. On Catsite, another user describes , "every time I start singing, just about anything, loudly, my cat gets really excited. Then there’s the very small percentage of cats who are substantially worse and actually get a kick out of doing all the things their humans hate. When I’m up at any point. I am experiencing the same issue. A happier pet parent after all makes for a happier household for any pet. I am so very glad things are improving and do let me know how things progress in the next few weeks/months! Oh my goodness I’ve searched the net looking for someone else who has this problem. Sorry, my family doesn’t pull down that kind of cash and I’m not willing to put us into debt for an animal that can’t seem to stop eating obviously inedible things. I blame you for letting it go on for so long. Nothing nicer than a cat’s anxiety dropping off and finally letting her guard down to become the doll she really is with the support of a great pet mama like you to help her. Thank you in advance for the understanding I’m sure you’ll show, and I’m really looking forward to hearing your thoughts and stories down below. And one other issue- ever since having my daughter, my bladder sucks. It’s been 7 years now,, and It’s only gotten worse. The thing is , I could never ever give him up because I love him so so so much. If I could afford veterinary care I’d get it. Just fill in the form below and hit "Subscribe"! Fast forward a couple years and this is when we found my boyfriends pregnant cat. I changed his cat food to see if that helped a little (and with the smells in the litter box) and it did. I wish we’d never done it. There are times they are still curled up together and affectionate, but because the orange beast will randomly go crazy, my gray cat feels safer staying out of site. I cant take it anymore. I would honestly say that if it’s making your anxiety that bad to have heart to heart with your boyfriend and see if you can find a home for the cats. I started hating my old cat who I’d loved/adored her entire life and this was a cat who hated me, bit me if I moved at night while sleeping, refused being pet by hand, never accepted affection from me, preferred to be alone, stole food from the counter, and would stand inside the litter box only to point herself the wrong way such that her urine would arch from her into the air, onto the floor…every time she peed. She just like to cry cuz she thinks it will get her what she wants even though i just try to ignore it. If you catch him he will stop and start cleaning himself as if to say “oh I wasn’t doing anything just cleaning myself”. I really hope you find a solution, best of luck! By the time I was finally able to leave, the damage was already done. Just a baby, try to stick it through. Since he loves your partner, I feel like maybe there’s hope for him calming down in your home. One neutered one not. The general rule for training your cat out of a certain behaviour? Over time, they’ve all gone off to kitty heaven. Cats are incredibly smell sensitive and it sounds like she really loves you, so something not related to you is setting her off. It is always gentle but it still causes me to have an internal panic. So fine. I’m a big animal lover, and have had cats my whole life. Living with Felix (our cat) has been a living hell. He does but it’s not long before he’s fighting w the other cat again. I wouldn’t be surprised if he still associates you with his old life and for that association, does have increased anxiety and thus misbehaves excessively around you. Get your cat checked out a the vet if you haven’t had a check up lately. Thanks for the help, next I’m buying him a feathered stick. Just some ideas. I would encourage you to separate your cats from the rest of the cats into your bedroom if you have one to yourself. I hate that we have to put her in a cage when she eats, because if not she will eat all the other cats food and they just leave their plates. Take a visit to the vet, let them know about the pica. Two passed away as kittens, and here we are, 4 years later, with three remaining. If you’re willing to put in the effort, start by teaching your cat not to run away from you – a simple process that’s easy in theory, but does take persistence to successfully do. It happens between people, and it can happen between pets and their owners as well. I hate saying this, but I regret adopting the second cat. . I just got back from a weeks vacation. Wow, that’s one of the most lovely and kind ways I’ve ever seen it expressed, I found this when I was searching too…also about hating one of my cats , I hope it put your mind at ease and made you feel both not alone and not at all a bad person for having negative thoughts. My biggest challenge is the biting. My wife and I are working folks 9-5 corporate jobs. I have had my cat for 11 years, I found her and a litter of mostly all dead kittens in a wood pile. They both mainly stayed downstairs while she was upstairs.She tried time and time again to get rid of the fleas. I’m tired of the cats and getting very disgusted with them. I'm Going to be Blunt I Think you Are stupid. I am having the same issues!!!! It’s so pricey. With the experience I have now, most problems that crop up are easily resolved. I’m neutral towards him. The gist is, keep approaching her and doing non-“offensive” touching and petting of her to the point where she gets used to your touch more and more, so eventually she won’t freak out as much when you do more “annoying” things to her, like try to clean her eye or put some weird feeling thing in her ear. Not long after I moved in and it became my cat. Think you may travel in the future? . That part of the cat makes me feel awful for being so incredibly angry about the rest of her behavior. I took her in after her owner, my friend, passed away. Not spayed. They love to stand on their soap boxes and declare how evil it is that we peasants aren’t willing to pay an arm and a leg to find out if a house cat has been consuming polyethylene and getting it stuck in his stomach. Same with the biting. We have to be 100% vigilant about putting things behind closed doors and out of his reach. After all, if they are here it’s because they’re looking for a resolution to their problem. I’m losing my mind. I try to spend some time playing with him everyday, but apparently 20-30 minutes per day is not enough for him. We’ve been trying to train him, going so far as to use the spray bottle when he noses non-digestibles. She is a complete bully. "I keep shaking it and yelling at it but it won't shut up!". If you cannot provide for the food it needs you should perhaps re-home the cat. Clawed both sides of my arm! She also would attack anyone (cat or human) who wasn’t me during that time. My boyfriend has noticed (she is obsessed with him) and I can tell it bothers him that I don’t like her. This was understandable to me given what he’s been through. Basically try to hit the “reset” button on the relationship with the new cat, and try to get your cat to associate you with the new, healthy relationship he’s forged with your partner. I have really increased interactive play with him. My ex abused both of us, for years. Relationships with pets can be stressful and they’re definitely not always easy. I wish I could re-home my cats but they would need to go together since they are pretty bonded and my husband won’t give the one cat up. I got my cat when I owned a house 15 years ago, and now I sold it (stupidly) and now I have to rent a depressing bad place, and the housing market has skyrocketed, I have lived my life around these animals for so long and lost lots of money to accomodate them all,,,where I now live it’s small and ugly and has mold. Today I babysat a child for 8 hours and Simba did great just being his normal self. We took her in and a month later she had 7 kittens, and we rehomed all but one. I’m so sorry about this. I use cat attract litter. So I locked her in there and we started using different places until…she fell in and soaked herself. My boyfriend of course wanted to take her home. Petting a cat's belly often triggers a defensive reaction. My husband refuses to get rid of him and he also ignores the apparent issues (peeing, fur). Ta ta cat people. Before you try training your cat to stop doing certain things, I’d advise you to make absolute sure nothing is wrong with your cat and/or his or her environment first. She has never gotten along with my other cat. I hate my cat for the totally normal issue of redirected aggression. It’s like I wrote that. If you were to give advice to those who are frustrated by their cat’s bad behaviour, what advice would you give? After she turned 3 I got her vaccinations completed and got her spayed got a urine test done as well. Actually, your comment is reminiscent to me of a number of different articles I’ve read about people sometimes regretting having children, who love their children to bits, but do mourn the sacrifices they’ve had to make to have them. I could hold her in any postiion, even on her back---and she didn't protest. Of course, the initial step to resolution is identifying the individual problems that created the hostility to begin with. The only time she is quiet and calm, EVER, is when I am just sitting on the couch doing nothing. D. I hand cook my cat's meals! My boyfriend loves her and can’t understand why I actively don’t like her (I’m reluctant to say I hate her, but it definitely comes to that some days). So my cat does scratch me, ruin my new clothes, and he destroys my earbuds. Also, they seem to level out a lot later – only getting more calm when they hit around a year and a half to two years of age. Hoping it’s not that and that he just needed a little age under his belt to calm down. Our male cat has a stress-related heart condition and it infuriates me to think that she could be hurting his health. Can only hope. I really hope things get better. I brought her in as a stray. Now with a new baby in the house those feelings of rage and hate and disgust at this furry douche have gone through the roof. It makes me scared to go home because I don’t even want to be anywhere near them. 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